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Posted January 26, Reviewed by Kaja Perina. Most American adults have spent a non-trivial amount of time being untethered to other people. While some people get a lot of enjoyment out of these more independent years, for others, the absence of a stable social environment is an emotional struggle. They all have cognitive benefits, and none of them include dating! Alone-ness, in and of itself, is a neutral experience.
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our free newsletter to take the Leadership for Introverts Test and start building your skills. While I was there, I ran a marathon. I stayed in a hotel room alone mostly. I wandered around Beijing alone. I sat down to eat at the local restaurants alone. Traveling with a friend or someone close can be a really rewarding experience. But I have just as much fun traveling alone. When I travel alone, what I learn about is myself.
I learn about my own strengths, and I learn about my own weaknesses and insecurities. It can be powerful in any aspect of life. It seems today—at least in the U. We praise the extroverts—those who know how to handle themselves in a crowd, the ones with vast network of friends. We think working in groups and on teams is the only way to find the answer to a problem.
That two he are better than one. That collaboration is the only way of the future. But if you leave me alone to think awhile, you might be surprised at what I accomplish. If you want me to come out with you and your friends, invite me somewhere quiet where we can talk.
I get value from my relationships by getting to know you much more than just being around you. In the same way I can enjoy myself in a big group, you may find you can also enjoy yourself… all by yourself. There is great value in being alone.
And handling it well is a beautiful thing. The following are 13 rules I try to live by when it comes to being alone. They add enormous value to my life. It really is a choice. Instead, ask yourself for advice.
If you knew the answer to the problem that you have, what would it be? The more time you spend asking yourself for advice, the less you start to need input from others. To truly enjoy being alone, learn to look at ordinary situations in new and unfamiliar ways. Go to the park and watch people play with their children or their dogs.
Go to the grocery store and watch how people shop for their groceries. Everywhere you go, make an effort to understand the other people around you. Learning how people operate when they think no one is watching will make you feel more connected to them. Take a moment and sit quietly in a dark room.
Listen to everything that is not happening around you. Every single person has an inner voice that talks to them at all hours of all days, and getting to know that person and how to talk to them is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.
This voice rubs off on you. It is you. The way that you talk to yourself when no one else is around will shape who you are in this world more than anything else. Most people have to experience some type of tragedy before they begin to understand just how brief our time here is.
There is no such thing as a boring person. There is no such thing as a boring situation. This is a problem with you, not with your surroundings. Take an interest in every person that comes into your life, even if for only a second. Listen closely to what they say. Watch carefully what they do. Try to understand them as a person. To keep things moving, you have to keep things fresh.
This is a time to reaffirm the path that your life is on.
Are you happy and fulfilled? Or, are you feeling unsatisfied? Should you change something? These are questions you can only answer when you take advantage of this gift of quiet.
If, instead, you fill your time with entertainment that you mindlessly consume—TV, movies, randomly surfing the web—it will be difficult to answer these questions. You can never devote enough attention to coming to a clear answer. To create is one of the most important things you can do in your life. To create among a sea of people or even just one person vying for your attention is one of the most difficult things in life. All excuses are gone. Your other option is to ignore that call to create and, instead, look for temporary comfort in things and people who will eventually leave you unfulfilled.
Make use of your loneliness.
Whether you’re single or dating, this will help you start enjoying your own company.
It only needs to be present. Pursue these plans immediately. Perfect never comes, and the longer you wait, the harder it is to get started. Maybe you want to travel the world and understand different cultures. Maybe you want to build a massive stamp collection. When you do this, two things happen. Second, this confidence brings new and interesting people into your life.
Being alone can be beautiful, but if you want to add people to your life, finding a purpose for your existence is the fastest way to do it. Get used to doing things alone that society says is made for two. Go to a movie by yourself and enjoy the picture. Have a great dinner out all by yourself.
You really don't need anyone else to get happy.
Take yourself on dates, and learn to treat yourself well. This will be awkward at first. Accept it. When you work on a team, the pressure to conform is great. You always have to think about the others in your group and regularly make compromises so that the end result is acceptable to everyone.
You have the freedom to be completely selfish and make no compromises about what you do or how you do it. Take advantage of this freedom! An important part of life is doing things that look unwise or impractical to others. You can contain it to just a small part. A great way to do this—and to contribute something positive to the world—is to volunteer your time to a cause you believe in.
It means being confident enough to know that you can surround yourself with people, but not depend on them for your own happiness.
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